Often advice after a breakup is work on yourself, but what does working on yourself really mean?
It means putting the focus on you instead of anyone else. When we always put others first, we deplete ourselves. When in a relationship this is normal, but still not healthy.
Many times in relationships we stop working on ourselves because we are happy in our relationship, however, working on ourselves is vital single or in a relationship.
As humans we evolve over time and our likes and dislikes change. We need to constantly assess these. What we liked at 18 may be very different from what we like at 30.
One thing that I stress is learning the lessons put in front of us. When we learn them, we are less likely to repeat them. Part of working on you starts here.
Most people are worried about getting hurt again in the same manner as their ex. This is normal, but self confidence in knowing what is going because you have learned the lessons you have been given.
Working on yourself should include what you like and don’t like. Check out this workbook to help you figure out likes, dislikes, and any changes you want to make in your life. It is vital that we as humans check in with ourselves and constantly continue to evolve as we grow.
After a breakup or a life changing event, it’s easy to jump in and change things about you that you don’t like. You have all the power to do this.
What else does working on you look like?
Here are a few examples:
- Starting a new workout
- Eating clean and healthy
- Expanding your friendship circles
- Trying new things
- Learning to do things on your own
If you aren’t sure how to expand your friendship circles? Check this article out for more information.
Also if learning to do things on your own feels scary, here’s an article on how to be successful
Overall, spend more time doing exactly what you want.
I suggest to clients to figure out how to add joy into their lives. Where there is joy, life is easier and makes you feel better.
Realizing working on you is an exciting and fun journey. If you see it that way, it feels better.
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